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I Don’t Need Your Sympathy as a SAHM

June 27, 2016

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Stop. Just stop.

I see the looks. I know what you’re thinking.

“Oh, you’re a stay at home mom. Your husband provides for your family on his measly teacher salary.”

Just because I'm a stay at home mom does not mean me or anyone in my family needs your sympathy. Here is one mother's take on why this is true!

Stop offering to give us things.

Stop showing up on our doorstep with bags of groceries.

We are not struggling financially.

Actually, we are doing quite well.

We chose this lifestyle.

We chose to cut back to be able to continue to invest and make sure our little guy is well taken care of.

Yes, I know we don’t keep animal crackers and fruit snacks on ready supply for him to eat all day long. But, you know what? Those aren’t the healthiest snacks for him anyway.

He has access to as many fruit and vegetables each day as he could want.

We make sure to offer at least one protein at every meal.

He has plenty.

Speaking of plenty, look around the floor. It’s covered with toys!

Like many other children, he has more than he can play with. Yes, many of them are from second hand stores or rummage sales – but he doesn’t know that. He is a happy boy with plenty of toys and more books than he’ll ever possibly be able to read.

While I’m on the topic of second hand items, he also doesn’t mind that most of his clothing is gently used. He has plenty of clothing too. Probably too much if you want me to be honest.

He will succeed in life.

Me choosing to be a SAHM has not hurt our son in any way.

We chose to do haircuts at home. We are saving money and getting a better haircut right in the convenience of our own home. We made a conscious effort to not spend money excessively, which I outlined in this post where we share 15 things we don’t spend money on.

These are choices we made, and we’re ok with them.

Regardless of how many times I tell you we are fine, you don’t believe me. But – rest assured – we really are fine! Actually we’re more than fine. We are happy! We are a family. We love one another. And even if we choose that I’m going to be a SAHM for his entire youth life, that’s our choice. So please just learn to deal with it. If you could also respect it, that would be awesome.

Just because I'm a stay at home mom does not mean me or anyone in my family needs your sympathy. Here is one mother's take on why this is true!

 

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