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Then you remember…
You stopped nursing. Well, that’s not a big deal! Everyone stops nursing at some point or another. So why the guilt?
Oh yea, you’re glad to be done.
Let me rephrase that. It’s not that you’re jumping for joy or anything. As a matter of fact, you miss those special cuddles and that bonding time you were guaranteed several times a day. But…you don’t miss those teeth. You don’t miss that pump. You’re enjoying the freedom of an afternoon with a friend. You’re enjoying that first alcoholic beverage is nearly two years. All these thoughts go through your mind, and then you feel guilty for even thinking them!
Add in the fact that you stopped nursing before that precious one year mark, and you feel really guilty. Did you give up? Should you have gone longer? After all the World Health Organization recommends nursing for two years. What? He got croup the week you stopped? It must be your fault! If you would have just nursed longer, he’d still be the healthy, happy baby you’ve had since day one.
Oh the mom guilt. People, it’s real. Every mom is going to experience it at one point or another. For me, it just happened to hit hardest when I stopped breastfeeding. I was ready to be done. And – honestly – I think little man wasn’t affected much either. His formula intake only went up eight ounces a day, and we still cuddled during bottle feedings.
Whether you are dealing with mom guilt from ending nursing or anything else, try not to beat yourself up over it. You’re doing the very best you can. Babies don’t come with an owner’s manual, even though they should!
Mom guilt will get you. Call your own mom – she’ll be able to tell you all about it. Ask your friends, they’ll have stories to share! You’re going to be able to write a book about the things you wish you knew beforehand, had done differently, or regret.
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