Thank you for calling me cheap. I guess I prefer the term frugal, but I can see why you think I’m such a cheapskate. When you look at me and my family, it’s as if you see people who are living without. Poor us, right? HA! Wrong!
I see a family who uses their money well. We have budgeted to know where every last penny goes. We give generously – both to family and friends on the holidays, birthdays, and throughout the year – and to our church and other organizations that we feel are worthwhile.
I see a couple who plans. You see, we had over $70,000 in debt when we met in 2011. Yet we have worked together to get rid of all the student loans and car payments. And we opted to have a inexpensive wedding. Does that mean we are “less” than others? I believe not. While there are many couples around the country who are going into unnecessary debt, we are looking for ways to stay out of debt!
I see a family who meal plans. This allows us to have our food planned out for the week and nutritious yummies in the cupboard that keep us on budget. Yes, our fridge and cupboards look a little bare right before the next grocery run – but we are ok with that and we never go hungry.
I see a family who would rather see stuff than buy stuff. We love to travel. Yes, you’re right that we haven’t taken a bigger trip in over a year – but we knew having a child would mean those big trips would be put on hold more than before.
I see a couple who has less arguments. We communicate well about money because we have to. Plus my husband and children don’t have to have mom come home from work each day with all of her energy and patience given out to everyone at work. I am able to give everything to my family.
I see a mom who is able to stay home with her children due to her “cheap”-ness. You cannot replace watching your child’s first steps, being there for them 24/7, or hearing their first words.
So yes, feel free to call me cheap. Feel free to feel pity for me and other moms like me if you must, but know that we don’t need or want your pity. I, like many other moms (and even a few dads!) before me, chose this life knowing full well what we were getting ourselves into.
I’ll use your “cheap” comments as encouragement to put more money in the bank while so many suffer under piles of debt. I will simply smile at your blatant so-called “Christian” comment and know that we are following God’s path for this time in our life.
We are grateful for all that we have, and your comment will not be given another thought upon this post being published.
End of rant.
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