If you’re a stay at home mom, you’ve probably already heard at least one of these phrases since you started to stay home. If you’re not a stay at home mom, read below to learn 7 things NOT to say to stay at home moms.
1. “He needs socialization. He’s going to be so weird.”
Have you seen his parents? The poor kid was doomed to be weird from the get go! Me staying home with him isn’t going to make him any worse. Plus he gets plenty of socialization. We go out and about in the community almost every day, head to church each Sunday, and take him to many different school and community functions. We also have occasional play dates. He doesn’t need to go to a “typical” daycare to be socialized to other kids and people.
2. “Don’t you get sick of being with him all day?”
I love my child. Of course there are days where I need a bit of a break, but I truly love being home with him each day. I realize there are people who can’t imagine being home all day, and that’s their choice. I can’t imagine being at work all day while my son is in daycare. To each their own.
3. “It must be nice to sit at home all day watching TV.”
Yes, of course it’s nice. I just let my child run around all day long while I sit and watch soap operas, eating bon bons. #sarcasm
For your information, stay at home moms are super busy. Do you know how much of a mess kids can make? We try to keep it under control as much as possible. Do you know how often and how much kids eat? We have to prepare, serve, and clean up that food multiple times a day. And guess what? Many of us have side jobs that we do while the kids are at home – blogging anyone? And even if we don’t have a side job, just keeping up with the laundry, dishes, balancing the checkbook, and everything else to help a household run efficiently – all while keeping the kid/s alive – takes quite a bit of time and effort.
4. “I wish I had that much free time.”
The minute people learn I’m a stay at home mom, they immediately tell me how it must be nice to have so much free time. Please reread #3.
5. “Exactly how much does your husband make as a teacher?”
This one offends me for so many reasons. First of all, it’s rude to talk to strangers and acquaintances about money. Second, my husband’s salary is actually published in the paper since he’s a teacher – so look it up yourself if you’re so curious. But mostly – it makes me wonder if the person doing the questioning needs a lesson in money management. You see, my husband and I have worked hard to pay off our debt. We don’t have any student loans, we have chosen ways to not spend money, and we have many other money saving strategies that work well for our family. Rather than make the rude statement above, I recommend you try living in our shoes.
6. “Why isn’t your house cleaner?”
You’re right, my house should be immaculate. HA! Give me a break!
My child currently doesn’t understand the concept of cleaning up. He also doesn’t understand the concept of not dumping out an entire container of toys 30 seconds after I put them away. We do pick up toys, but not every five minutes. If you happened to stop by on a day my house looks less than par, congrats – you saw real life!
7. “Why don’t you have a real job?”
I’m sorry, but since when it taking care of little people not a “real” job? Would you say that to the daycare provider down the street? Whether you have one child or 30 in your care (hello, classroom teacher!), it’s a job. For me, it happens to be a pretty fabulous job! So if you want to bash it, please keep your opinions to yourself! And before you eve think about telling me I’m “just” a mom, you’d better read this post.