“There’s nothing wrong with how I was raised,” said a friend of mine quite defensively one day. “So why on earth would I need to use essential oils?”
At that moment, I was completely thrown off by her comment. But now I’ve had some time to think it over, so here’s how I would respond if I had a chance to redo that conversation.
I never said my parents (or my husband’s) did anything wrong. Our family choosing to use essential oils is simply that – a choice. Honestly, the conversation doesn’t even have to be about essential oils – it can be about any topic: vaccinations, diet, potty training, technology, and more.
We believe chemicals can be bad and lead to unhealthy lifestyles. We’re not perfect, but we try to lead chemical free lives.
And something doesn’t have to be “wrong” in order for it to be changed.
Look at the many examples in history.
Cars used to not have seat belts. Just because prior generations didn’t have them, does that mean we should continue not using them today? Let’s just pretend that option would even be legal in most states, is it your best option?
Or how about lead paint? Would you knowingly paint your baby’s crib with lead paint today?
My parents weren’t perfect. Neither were my husbands. Heck – we aren’t perfect parents. We are simply doing our best to raise our little boy in the healthiest environment possible.
Does that mean I think you or I were raised “wrong”? Nope. Nada. Not one little bit.
Parenting is hard. There’s enough guilt.
I’ve made my decisions as a parent, and every other parent out there is making their own decisions as well. These decisions don’t always look identical, but deep down everyone is doing their best. Our decisions change based on the knowledge presented to us or what we learn. It’s called change.
What looks “best” will be different – depending on who you talk to.
So rather than judge me or tell me that I’m doing something “wrong”, how about you simply accept the decisions my husband and I have made for our family. 🙂
There is NOTHING wrong with how I was raised or how you were raised.
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